Fertility, or the lack thereof, has never been something that I had ever really thought of before I started trying for baby number two.
My family heritage shows no problems with fertility and I don’t believe my mother or grandmother ever had a miscarriage. Each of them had five kids naturally. I have two aunts in their 30’s who had children after I had my son at the age of 23.
After about three months of trying, I went to my doctor after horrible abdominal pain. It was discovered that I had an ovarian cyst and my bowls were very backed up. My doctor knew that we were trying for baby number two, so he checked my tubes while he was doing my surgery. I had scar tissue blocking one of my fallopian tubes. He was able to clean the scar tissue out and fix my other problems.
I thought for sure that I would get pregnant after that. But nothing.
I was discouraged and anxious. I had no trouble getting pregnant with my son as he was not exactly planned; and I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. My husband and I had been trying to conceive for about five months when I decided to take route.
I thought I would try to exercise and eat better. A friend of mine mentioned that she had a desire to take a Yoga 101 class. I had never taken a yoga class and figured what I’d give it a shot.
I learned so much in this yoga class. You can check out these five life lessons I learned from my first yoga class.
Many people think that yoga is just about exercise. It is so much more than that. Yoga is about your mindset. You must focus within as you do the poses. Yoga helped me to cope with the anxiety of infertility in 3 specific ways.
1. Yoga allowed me to release the anxiety and stress that comes with trying to conceive.
Everyone I’ve ever talked to has said that yoga helped them to relieve stress. I’m not sure what part of yoga helps one’s mental health. It could simply be that you are making time for yourself. Yoga helps you center yourself. It allows you to address the anxiety and breathe it out. You don’t judge your mental status. You recognize it and move on.
I found that yoga helped me recognize my anxiety. I recognized what was causing my anxiety. I was then able to release that anxiety.
I felt so much peace when I let the stress of infertility go. I thought less about my infertility and more about the positive things in my life.
2. Yoga allowed me to become more in tune with my body.
I was paying so much attention to my cycle that I began to neglect the other needs of my body. During final meditation, I would monitor my breathing and focus on my body. I would relax each part starting with my feet. It’s amazing the things you learn about yourself when you give yourself time to do so.
3. Yoga allowed me to realize that it is OK if I didn’t become pregnant at all.
The anxiety of infertility was causing a strain on my relationship with my husband. When I started to center myself, I realized that getting pregnant wasn’t an end to my life. I have a son who needs my love and affection. I have a husband who loves me even if I never had another baby. He married me for me.
I found that it was going to be OK. I didn’t have to get pregnant to be the person I wanted to be in my life.
Infertility is something that can be daunting. It creates an anxiety that can also lead to further infertility. Yoga helped me overcome the anxiety of infertility. I also believe it helped me get pregnant with baby number two! I’m due in July, and I’ve found that yoga is very helpful for the growing pains of pregnancy.
I would recommend yoga to anyone dealing with infertility. Understand that you may not conceive as I did; but you will find that yoga will help you cope with the anxiety that comes with infertility.
Alesia Galati is a working mom who fights her way through life, depression, and just plain stupidity. She strives to show others that it is possible to be an awesome mom even while you feel like you're losing your mind. A Bottle of Sanity is a space in which working moms may find easy recipes, parenting tips, and sanity. Find Alesia on: Facebook Twitter Instagram